25 Black Men and Women On If Dick Size Really Matters

Does size matter? That’s the premier penis question I can safely assume more men want the answer to --with an explanation-- than women. I know I did growing up. We live in a bigger is better, BBC, big dick energy, aRe YoU hUnG (for my LGBTQIA+ brothas on Grindr) world. Turn the volume up on some hip-hop music and you'll hear Rich Homie Quan rapping about how, "She got a thing for us big dick balling niggas," or new baddie on the block Saweetie on her ladies anthem, "My Type" going off on the chorus, "eight-Inch big, ooh, that's good pipe," determining the quality of the dick in relationship to its size. Pay a visit your favorite porn site and on the home page BBC, Monster Cock, Big Dick video galore — and this is the straight porn. As black and brown men the pressure is on to be well endowed.

For most though, having a third leg isn’t the case. According to Medical News Today, the average flaccid penis size is 8.8 cm (3.5 inches) and the average penis size while erect is 12.9 cm (5.1 inches), a far cry from the 8 inches Saweetie wants you to have. And unlike women, or anyone on the receiving end of dick who typically deals with body shaming because of their assets, meat slangers like me typically get the privilege of poker face and the element of surprise because our parts aren’t exposed. I can talk about flat or fat asses and have a top pick on the kind of bubble booty I want while you have to wait until I take my pants off to know what the dick looks like.

From personal experience as a bisexual man and getting up close and personal with slim, girthy, hung, micro, chode and average sized cocks I can share some advice with you to put your mind at ease.

  • Alexa play Michael Jackson "You Are Not Alone," because you’re not the only one who wonders if their dick is an adequate size.

  • Your dick is bigger than what you think, TRUST ME I'VE DONE THE FIELD WORK TO CONFIRM IT. If you're sitting at around 5 inches and your insecurity is eating you alive, RELAX NIGGA, the glass is already half way full for you.

  • Size is in the eye of the beholder so what may be "big" like a 8-inch penis, could be considered too small for someone who's looking for a foot long.

  • Women and men who like penetration masturbate and reach orgasm with their dainty and delicate fingers all the time. Fuck the size of the wave and hit them with that "motion of the ocean."

Now let's answer the question you came here for, does dick size matter?

YES IT DOES

But not for the reasons that you’re thinking. Dick size preference varies from person to person. Some like little ones, some like big ones and some care more about the person and sex skillset attached to the penis and not it's actual size.

To offer some different perspective on this answer I decided to turn to my friends to get some honest and anonymous feedback on dicks. First, I hit up my ladies ranging in age from 25-31. Does size matter to them? What would they say is more important, size or skill? Would/Could they date some who has a small dick?


1

Does size matter to you?

I kind of want to say no because it's all in how you use it but if it's small I'm not going to laugh in your face but I will tell my friends.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Skill

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

I could mess with somebody with a small dick, but to be in a relationship, I don't think they could do anything for me.

2.

Does size matter to you?

Size absolutely matters. it can’t be too big or too small. Too teeny tiny, you can’t feel it or reach the sweet spot. Too big and you’re uncomfortable.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Size is more important. Skill can be taught.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

*insert hell nah meme here*

3.

Does size matter to you?

Yes, I’ve seen little itty bitty dicks (can’t even call them that lol) and you just lay there to fake 5 seconds of nothing.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Skill. You can have a mediocre size dick and know how to make it seem like you hang low.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

No because I’d probably end up cheating and that’s just being honest.

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4.

Does size matter to you?

Size doesn’t matter to me because i feel like it’s based on the vibe that a person gives off. To me size doesn’t dictate if the sex is good or bad. You can have a big dick and be terrible and another man can be small but amazing.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?
Skill is way more important. I can’t stress enough that there’s men out there that have the tools but don’t no how to operate them.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?
I definitely would date someone who has a small dick and have already dated some and married one. Sex is more than just size, sex is a broad spectrum of endless entertainment like foreplay, fetishes and spiritual connections.

5.

Does size matter to you?

Size does matter, but it doesn’t have to be huge. i preferred to have a medium sized dick that has some girth to it. Don’t nobody want no skinny ass pencil dick!

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Definitely skill especially since most women get better and more orgasms from things other than penetration (but I think it goes hand in hand because if the dick is too small like a micro penis then it really doesn’t matter the skill if you can’t feel it).

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

i did and it was the worst sex ever. His thang was small small and I honestly had sex with him because i felt bad because I laugh at him (I know this is bad don’t judge me I’m judge being honest). I also had sex and dated someone with a skinny hot dog dick but it was super long and that was decent sex and he had some moves that got me where I needed to go.

6.

Does size matter to you?

Dick size doesn’t matter to a certain extent.... I mean I don’t want to be fucking a Vienna sausage but I don’t need a full eggplant either.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?
I am a firm believer that SKILL outweighs size. I can buy any size dick at the toy store, it’s all about what he’s able to do with whatever size he’s given.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?
I did it for many years.... and to be honest it’s not something I’ll ever do again because I’m a very sexual person and his dick was so small that it just had no potential so I will never do it again!

7.

Does size matter to you?
Size does matter to me but it doesn’t mean I need a Mandingo long King Kong Dong. It just can’t be too small where I’m not being pleasured nor too small where he can’t get into different positions.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?
Skill. You can have a big dick and not know how to use it. Or to make it worse, cum too fast.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?
How small are we talking? If it’s too small where he can’t hit it from the back, then no. However, If he treats me like a queen AND can put it down, I can look past the size.

8.

Does size matter to you?

I learned size does matter after experiencing my first Caucasian man who was quite a bit smaller than the young African kings I’m used to. He tried to make it look big but in real life it just wasn’t there. The smallest I’ve had was the weakest so I’m just assuming there’s a connection.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

I honestly think size is more important because in my experience small dick action and big dick action weren’t to far off from each other. The big definitely took the cake, hits the spot much better than something falling out every time I want to put in some work too.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

I could but I’d probably cheat after a while. From my experience the littler the dick the heavier they’ll sweat me and I’m with all the extra attention just not with the lack of physical pleasure.

9.

Does size matter to you?

Yes, size matters. In order to be fully pleased I enjoy the feeling of a larger dick. Also it matters for oral, makes it more enjoyable if there’s more take in.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Skill matters more. Being bigger doesn’t mean he knows what he’s doing. A big dick can make a man lazy sometimes.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

No I wouldn’t. I’ve tried to before but it matters to me so my mind wanders. And even if the skill is there I’m still not satisfied cuz I need feel the hammer!

10.

Does size matter to you?

Size definitely matters to me because I need someone that can reach all my insides and snatch my soul and I feel like someone small can’t do that.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Skill although I know that contradicts what I said in 1 lol.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

I have dates someone with a small dick but I won’t anymore lol

11.

Does size matter to you?
Size doesn’t necessary matter to me. i been with dude who have big dicks and they can’t do shit with it and i also been with shrimps that were hitting all kinds of walls.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Skill. It all depends on what they do with it.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?

Yes I could date with someone with a small penis. I could deal with good head for the rest of my life or i’ll just get on top, it’s cool.

12.

Does size matter to you?

1. Size does not matter to me because I've had smaller dicks that were good and bigger ones that were TERRIBLE. As well as I'm not into big ass dicks that hurt too much, but I don’t want no shrimp i still gotta feel it lol I like a happy medium.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?
2. Skill. If you have a big dick and you don’t how to utilize it properly, its pointless.

Would/Could you date some who has a small dick?
3. I have dated someone with a small dick more than once. As long as he knows how to use it we're okay not to mention I'll take head over dick anytime so if he has some okay dick but some bomb ass head im good lol.

13.

Does size matter to you?

Yes & No. No because maybe you have good head and that could be overlooked. Yes because I want to be pleased if you can't please me I'm going to seek else where for pleasure.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

You can have a small dick with skill and you can have a big dick with no skill so I say skill first and then size.

Would/Could you date someone who has a small dick?

I've dated someone with a small dick his head was more compensating for his dick but I still ended up cheating

14.

Does size matter to you?

Yes! I gave a little dick nigga a chance before and when I tell you I couldn’t feel a damn thing. But their is a such thing as a dick that’s too big because somebody broke my pussy before and it was a whole 2 weeks before I could do anything again.

What would you say is more important, size or skill?

Skill is more important because even a man with a big dick doesn’t necessarily know how to use it. Sex is more that just hard thrust and humping you got to have an ill stroke.

Would/Could you date someone who has a small dick?

Yes I could date somebody with a small dick if I have feeling for him. I’ll have to teach him how to eat a mean pussy and experiment with positions.

15.

Does size matter to you?

In my experience, I used to think size didn’t matter but now I believe it does. I have had what I consider to be small dick (no more than 7 inches  with little girth ), and Ive also has some tripods. (8-9 inches with a circumference of 3-4 inches ). The smaller dicks are cool only if they know the body and focus on the stroke and responding to the woman. I will say that bigger, thicker dicks are the ones that don’t need to do a while lot to satisfy. More times than not, they have more confidence and it seems to work in their favor 

What would you say is more important, size or skill?
More important, I think is skill. You can very well have a huge, beautiful piece of equipment and stroke game be all off. As I said, listening to the body snd paying attention to how it responds is most important for enjoyable sex 

Would/Could you date someone who has a small dick?

The answer is no. I can’t honestly deal with a man with a small dick. For what my vagina likes, you have to have size to even make me want you. I like a challenge , and putting a small dick in my mouth or in my vagina is no challenge for me. Lmao 


Next I reached out to the fellas to ask them if they you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of their dick? if they ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of their dick? What advice would they give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

1.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

Slightly insecure. I had to learn to accept my fate.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?
No not to my knowledge at least.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?
Own it and realize genitals vary in sizes.

2.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

I’m comfortable with my size AND been comfortable. The reaction I get when women grab it is too genuine to be insecure lmao.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?
Got one negative reaction but it was after she got mad at me for dealing with other women. Her initial reaction was different. After she got mad I all of a sudden had a little dick.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?
Size really don’t matter. If you think you got a small dick better make sure you can eat pussy with the best of them.

3.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

I’ve learned to be comfortable with my dick size. I have a bigger than average but not big enough to be hung dick (WHAT’S POPPIN TEAM MEDIUM) and it wasn’t until my mid 20’s after seeing my dick side by side with other dicks (and a few people telling me its big without me asking) that i realized I should be more grateful for my dick size.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?
I’ve never gotten a reaction that’s made me felt embarrassed about myself. I’ve heard a comment about my soft dick but I’m an extreme grower so it didn’t matter.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

Relax, you have more dick than you think and there’s more than one way to make a man or woman cum so TURN THEM TF OUT WITH YOUR SKILLS. And if you move with confidence he or she will take whatever dick you pull out your pants.

4.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

I’m very comfortable with the size of my dick because each and every girl i’ve dealt with has been pleased. I’ve gotten good reviews.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?

If turning into a crazy girlfriend counts as a negative reaction then yes.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

If you can get her to the point of seeing your dick she won’t really turn back at that point. Eat the box, beat the box, you’ll be fine.

5.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

Not at all. I’m comfortable with what I got. It rocks the boat with plenty of motion on the ocean.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?

Never. That would be embarrassing for a man if that happened.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

Hmm... get a pump. Nah just work around with what you got. As long as your stroke game is on point , you’re good to go . Do some hip thrusts at the gym to practice, lol.

6.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

I'm very comfortable with my size.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?

No negative reactions ever. I get uncomfortable when my dick is bigger than the tops' though. It's awkward.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

Advice... Faith the size of a mustard seed can move mountains. Lol. Um, seriously, I guess would say, your "partner" should never make you feel bad about your size and, if you personally feel insecure about your size you must over deliver in other areas to compensate. Generally, the majority of people just want love & personal attention.

7.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

Yes I’m comfotable. Never did me wrong and definitely never had a complaint.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?

Nope.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

Better learn how you use your mouth.

8.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

I never was until 4 women ago when she said I was the smallest she ever had but she still enjoyed it. Fucked me up till I made the next girl cum lol.


Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?
First girl I ate out did and I ain’t smash and we were in Atlantic City with all my boys and they clowned my ass I was mad. She ended up apologizing next day and tryin to smash but I wasn’t having it.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

If they cum you’re good bro lol.

9.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

I feel comfortable and I’ve been told by females that it is big.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?

I’ve met one female who said it hurt because of the size.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

Big or small it’s more about your confidence in yourself no matter what you can slang that thing.

10.

Do you feel comfortable or insecure about the size of your dick?

I’m not really sure and it’s weird because I’m packin’ low key. I think because my thighs are so big it makes my penis looks smaller than it actually is.

Have you ever met anyone who had a negative reaction to the size of your dick?

No but I’ve had girls quit on me after like 6 strokes a few times.

What advice would you give to a man who felt they had a small dick?

Learn how to satisfy a woman. I have a large penis and it took years for me to have some conversations that led me to realize that even though I’m well endowed, I didn’t really know HOW to have sex. The crazy part is you can’t rely on women to be honest on how they feel about your performance. I’ve had sex with some women before and after I learned more and they said they didn’t like it the first time but loved it the second time. The little differences make a huge ass deal. And every woman is different and you have to operate accordingly. Be open to learning, trying new things, and becoming comfortable with the process of figuring out how to please a woman. 

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